Alex Aylworth, Elementary Teacher
Share a moment when you supported a student in a way that centered their needs and gifts.
I have an ELD (English-learning development) student. But he also has a lot going on at home that sometimes affects his ability to learn in the classroom, especially right after something happens. I remember him coming in one day and visibly being upset and anxious.
He was working on a reading lesson on his Chromebook. The lessons are very individualized and tailored to where students are in their learning process, but he was struggling. I gave him a little bit of feedback, then quickly realized that it wasn’t the lesson giving him trouble. He was holding onto something that he couldn’t let go of emotionally. In my classroom, we use something called “whale breaths.” Just a way to work on getting calm. I asked him to take a big whale breath. So he did, but he still was visibly on the verge of crying and being angry at the same time. It wasn’t helping him reset. I asked him if he wanted to talk about it. And it was almost to the point where he couldn’t do anything without getting even more emotionally heightened. And so I said, “Take your anger or frustration with whatever you’re feeling, ball it up like it’s a piece of paper.” He used his hands in a crushing motion very firmly. And then I said, “Throw it as hard and as far as you can.” He swung his arm so hard. He looked at me, unsure of what had just happened. We did it one more time and talked about how if he had more of those hard-to-talk-about feelings, he’d ball it up and throw it as hard as he could. I saw this lift off of his shoulders.
We were able to go back to his work and find different strategies now that he didn’t have this emotional block anymore. And ever since that day, I have learned that this method for self-regulation works well for him. We can look at each other, and either I remind him to take a whale breath or make a throwaway ball. Or he just does it, already knowing what to do. It was a big moment for both of us. We adapted and connected and got to know each other a little better.
How are you shifting your practice to know and understand your students more deeply?
At five years old, I have learned that children are working towards so many different things at the same time. They’re working on their fine motor skills. They have to learn the rules and learn how to follow the rules. They’re learning how to be social, act appropriately in social settings, and act appropriately in conversations. They’re learning how to be friends. They’re learning how to be in a classroom setting for the first time. And they’re learning academically, but with COVID, my students are sometimes out for a while, and it’s hard for them to come back to class. Kids are resilient, but there’s only so much that they can take before their little bodies are not going to be able to take it anymore. They are learning how to cope with these things at the age of five. I’m hoping to create a helpful way for them to learn to cope with all of these things that they have to take in internally to create a classroom space where they can release it all and leave it there. That they can go to and find that relief. A cozy corner. And by setting this up, I get to know their circumstances — where my students came from and why they are the way they are, who they are and who they have become because of the experiences that they’ve been through. And I feel like, through that knowledge, I’m able to then reach them on a different level.